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Aug 31, 2007 10:50:11 GMT -5
Post by lala on Aug 31, 2007 10:50:11 GMT -5
Is it a problem to start a relationship with someone who has kids? I mean from reading, some don't want to be in a relationship where kids are already in the picture.
Not every BD/BM relationships are alike. I get along great with one, and the other one, I just don't deal with. But when I'm in a relationship, I receive the utmost respect from my girls fathers because we aren't on that level of being petty and causing unnecessary drama.
So that's not the case, but why is kids such a hang-up now a days. do you know that single parents outweigh coupled parents. Not that its a good thing, but I'm just saying.
You can't judge a person just because they have kids. You could be walking away from Mr./Ms. Perfect just because you hung up on the fact that they have kids.
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Aug 31, 2007 10:54:16 GMT -5
Post by Mr Up Close and Personal on Aug 31, 2007 10:54:16 GMT -5
I don't judge people with kids.... people with kids should just date other people with kids...
don't expect everyone to accept that you have kids... Some people just want to raise their own.. that Baby Daddy bullshit is for the birds...
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Aug 31, 2007 10:58:15 GMT -5
Post by Laydee on Aug 31, 2007 10:58:15 GMT -5
Is it a problem to start a relationship with someone who has kids? I mean from reading, some don't want to be in a relationship where kids are already in the picture.
Not every BD/BM relationships are alike. I get along great with one, and the other one, I just don't deal with. But when I'm in a relationship, I receive the utmost respect from my girls fathers because we aren't on that level of being petty and causing unnecessary drama.
So that's not the case, but why is kids such a hang-up now a days. do you know that single parents outweigh coupled parents. Not that its a good thing, but I'm just saying.
You can't judge a person just because they have kids. You could be walking away from Mr./Ms. Perfect just because you hung up on the fact that they have kids. I dont judge a guy cause he has kids. Ive actually dated 2 guys with kids. The first - no BM drama and the 2nd ALL HELL BABY MAMA DRAMA. I bet that bitch still wanna cut my throat. I just cant put up with it. Most baby mamas cannot get over their baby daddy and they try to use kids as a weapon if the baby daddy has moved on. And then, I love kids, and for the last dude I dated, I stuck around a lil while longer for his daughters sake. Cause her mother treated her like shit. Beat the shit out of her cause she wanted to go with her daddy and mommy heather. I was the only SANE thing in their life. Her daddy was nuts and her mama was dumb as hell. Now dont get me wrong, Ill give a guy with kids a chance to see how it goes, but when it boils down to it, I want to be with the father of my kids, no interruptions and no one else comin first but his kids and me.
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Aug 31, 2007 10:59:10 GMT -5
Post by kimmykim on Aug 31, 2007 10:59:10 GMT -5
I gets along with my sons father very well, he's damn near married, so I know he ain't thinking about what I'm doing. The other one is a sperm donor...he can't even find time to see his kids, less knowing be all up in my business, so um...no problems here!
But people have their own preferences, you can't except everyone to accept your children....man or woman. Especially folks that don't have kids. Shoot, I know a woman that has kids, but refuses to date a man that has kids. I don't understand that way of thinking, but hey like I said...that's what she wants...and I can't knock that.
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Aug 31, 2007 10:59:43 GMT -5
Post by lala on Aug 31, 2007 10:59:43 GMT -5
I don't judge people with kids.... people with kids should just date other people with kids... don't expect everyone to accept that you have kids... Some people just want to raise their own.. that Baby Daddy bullshit is for the birds... Are you under the impression that women with kids look to the boyfriend to help raise that child or take care of needs for that child? If so, WOW, because that's fucked up. What I made with someone else, I won't ask the next man to help me provide for. Now if he just chooses to up and do things for my kids out the kindness of his heart, then thank you. but I'll NEVER be like when you get paid, Lele need some shoes, or school supplies. Because that's not your job nor responsibility.
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Aug 31, 2007 11:00:47 GMT -5
Post by kimmykim on Aug 31, 2007 11:00:47 GMT -5
Is it a problem to start a relationship with someone who has kids? I mean from reading, some don't want to be in a relationship where kids are already in the picture.
Not every BD/BM relationships are alike. I get along great with one, and the other one, I just don't deal with. But when I'm in a relationship, I receive the utmost respect from my girls fathers because we aren't on that level of being petty and causing unnecessary drama.
So that's not the case, but why is kids such a hang-up now a days. do you know that single parents outweigh coupled parents. Not that its a good thing, but I'm just saying.
You can't judge a person just because they have kids. You could be walking away from Mr./Ms. Perfect just because you hung up on the fact that they have kids. I dont judge a guy cause he has kids. Ive actually dated 2 guys with kids. The first - no BM drama and the 2nd ALL HELL BABY MAMA DRAMA. I bet that bitch still wanna cut my throat. I just cant put up with it. Most baby mamas cannot get over their baby daddy and they try to use kids as a weapon if the baby daddy has moved on. And then, I love kids, and for the last dude I dated, I stuck around a lil while longer for his daughters sake. Cause her mother treated her like shit. Beat the shit out of her cause she wanted to go with her daddy and mommy heather. I was the only SANE thing in their life. Her daddy was nuts and her mama was dumb as hell. Now dont get me wrong, Ill give a guy with kids a chance to see how it goes, but when it boils down to it, I want to be with the father of my kids, no interruptions and no one else comin first but his kids and me. I remember that one...had us all wanting to call DCFS! What ever happened with that, did he get custody?
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Aug 31, 2007 11:03:13 GMT -5
Post by Laydee on Aug 31, 2007 11:03:13 GMT -5
I dont judge a guy cause he has kids. Ive actually dated 2 guys with kids. The first - no BM drama and the 2nd ALL HELL BABY MAMA DRAMA. I bet that bitch still wanna cut my throat. I just cant put up with it. Most baby mamas cannot get over their baby daddy and they try to use kids as a weapon if the baby daddy has moved on. And then, I love kids, and for the last dude I dated, I stuck around a lil while longer for his daughters sake. Cause her mother treated her like shit. Beat the shit out of her cause she wanted to go with her daddy and mommy heather. I was the only SANE thing in their life. Her daddy was nuts and her mama was dumb as hell. Now dont get me wrong, Ill give a guy with kids a chance to see how it goes, but when it boils down to it, I want to be with the father of my kids, no interruptions and no one else comin first but his kids and me. I remember that one...had us all wanting to call DCFS! What ever happened with that, did he get custody? Hell naw he went down hill when I left his ass and I mean down down down
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Aug 31, 2007 11:04:05 GMT -5
Post by Mr Up Close and Personal on Aug 31, 2007 11:04:05 GMT -5
I don't judge people with kids.... people with kids should just date other people with kids... don't expect everyone to accept that you have kids... Some people just want to raise their own.. that Baby Daddy bullshit is for the birds... Are you under the impression that women with kids look to the boyfriend to help raise that child or take care of needs for that child? If so, WOW, because that's fucked up. What I made with someone else, I won't ask the next man to help me provide for. Now if he just chooses to up and do things for my kids out the kindness of his heart, then thank you. but I'll NEVER be like when you get paid, Lele need some shoes, or school supplies. Because that's not your job nor responsibility. ok... lets straighten something out.... I'm not dating women to exculsively fuck... the next time i date a chick she'd have to be marriage material.... so NO id don't think a woman with kids is looking to me to help take care of them... but if you marry her... that's exactly what you'll be doing... because you married into that family... like i said I want to raise my own
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Aug 31, 2007 11:08:22 GMT -5
Post by lala on Aug 31, 2007 11:08:22 GMT -5
Are you under the impression that women with kids look to the boyfriend to help raise that child or take care of needs for that child? If so, WOW, because that's fucked up. What I made with someone else, I won't ask the next man to help me provide for. Now if he just chooses to up and do things for my kids out the kindness of his heart, then thank you. but I'll NEVER be like when you get paid, Lele need some shoes, or school supplies. Because that's not your job nor responsibility. ok... lets straighten something out.... I'm not dating women to exculsively fuck... the next time i date a chick she'd have to be marriage material.... so NO id don't think a woman with kids is looking to me to help take care of them... but if you marry her... that's exactly what you'll be doing... because you married into that family... like i said I want to raise my own Good luck on your endeavors.
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Aug 31, 2007 11:09:29 GMT -5
Post by Mr Up Close and Personal on Aug 31, 2007 11:09:29 GMT -5
thanx
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Aug 31, 2007 23:24:41 GMT -5
Post by gemini on Aug 31, 2007 23:24:41 GMT -5
LOL
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Sept 5, 2007 10:59:51 GMT -5
Post by ladyconceited1 on Sept 5, 2007 10:59:51 GMT -5
I know b4 I had my daughter I didnt like to date guys who had kids it was way to much drama. Me and my bf both have kids it works out good for us. I've also dated guys who didn't have kids. SO I would understand a person not wanting to date some one with kids it's a huge responsibility and if you aint ready for that then you aint ready for that. I focus more on how the person treats me and my daughter. If the guy has kids and the bm is crazy then that's a no no and move to the next. But when you truly love someone it don't really matter what they got kids, no kids whateva you them no matter what. But everybody got they preferences and do what works for them and aint nothin wrong with that.
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Sept 5, 2007 17:38:12 GMT -5
Post by Mr Up Close and Personal on Sept 5, 2007 17:38:12 GMT -5
Good points... I'm feeling that response
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Sept 5, 2007 17:42:10 GMT -5
Post by Mr Up Close and Personal on Sept 5, 2007 17:42:10 GMT -5
And I MIGHT.... I mean MIGHT as in very small chance... deal with 1 kid... MAYBE two... but she'd have to be one special lady... with a flat stomach .... but there's NO WAY IN HELL I'm dealing with more than 1 baby daddy
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Sept 25, 2007 13:35:22 GMT -5
Post by cerifiedandapprove on Sept 25, 2007 13:35:22 GMT -5
I think when you have kids it’s much easier to date someone else that has kids. I am not having any more children, so dating someone without children or who wants to have more children in the future would lead to absolutely nothing!
I applaud King for being honest, it makes no sense to hurt somebody when you know good and well they could never be your future.
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